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minkkilove:

I wonder what it is…

That’s hilarious. ohmygosh. haha.

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neutresex:

I’m facilitating a group on Monday about the influences of race on people within the LGBTQ/queer & trans community. If you attended a discussion like that, what questions would you have or what questions would you like to be discussed/addressed?

I have a few down already, but I need more ideas!

I couldn’t fit everything in the answer. But I also think that some races don’t accept it as openly as others do. Which  can impact whether or not an individual will come out to his or her family. Also there are their peers who also play a role in whether or not someone will come out. I guess coming out isn’t as big of a deal when someone may have not even realized their sexual orientation. Which poses the question when does someone know whether she or he is part of the LGTBQ community. 

So, family, friends, peers and even coworkers can all influence an individual on what his or her sexual orientation is now…but doesn’t necessarily mean that he or she feels right about it. I know of a guy who was raised in a catholic family and I don’t remember if his father was the pastor of a church or not. But he grew up his whole life straight and in college he even had a girlfriend who he said he would have married if he was not gay. I forgot how he realized it, but he said in college he know and that he came out to his friends first and he was surprised by their response. They all comforted him and accepted him which made him feel good. It helps to have support and know there are people who support you. I guess that helped him to eventually tell his family who today still isn’t really accepting of it. Unfortunately, his relationship with them is kind of awkward but he had a community of people who were there for him even though his family wasn’t. Which I think was good and he was a Caucasian male. I guess race wasn’t that big of a deal for him.

But on the other side of the spectrum, there was a professor of African American decent who was in fact gay. He knew at a very young age. Unfortunately, his family also was not accepting of it, not like the religious family but in the sense that they were afraid of this, I guess. Fortunately for him his mother was very supportive, even though his relatives would use derogatory phrases and say terrible things to him. Even worse, he was from the Bronx which during the 70s/80s was very dangerous. Keeping in mind that homosexuality was not accepting during that time. People were very homophobic. The professor being a African-American gay male, could have very well been killed if the public were aware of his sexual orientation. 

So I thought those were two good examples to share of the differences that it’s not only race that plays a role but a lot of other things too. This is a really interesting topic that you bring up, I hope this helped!